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When tragedy strikes some people are devastated unable to summon their coping mechanism they fall into deep depression or despondency, sometimes losing hope and even the will to carry on. They may be entirely preoccupied with the disasters and Sufferer from nightmares, flashbacks, and anxiety attacks. Other people however react differently they seem to manage not only the normal ups and downs of life but also potentially overwhelming losses and traumas. Instead of becoming depressed and unable to cope somehow, they are able to deal with the powerful circumstances and move on
Everyone is interested in this difference of reaction to find out why some people are so deeply affected while others are seemingly able to bounce back. Resilience is not a quality inherent in a person but one that builds through a natural process." Alone a child has no resilience it is an interaction and a relationship" said some experts. We build resilience from developing interactions and relations. We are constantly “Knitting" ourselves from people and situations that we encounter through the words we exchanged and the feelings that arise. We might feel that if one "stitch" full we can start all over again.
Positive emotion and humor are key factors in resilience. Research shows that people who are better able to cope with life difficulties or trauma able to find meaning in hardship seeing it as a useful and enlightening experience and even to find a way to laugh. Resilient people always remain able to see how things may turn out for the better in the future even if the present is painful.